I
think fulfilling the sexual stewardship in marriage means that you give
100% of yourself to your spouse. You seek for ways to create a stronger
bond and together find joy in loving one another fully. I think it also
means being open and discussing sexual intimacy, so that both people
are on the same page. I thought Brother Brotherson discussed many
important facets of sexual intimacy, but one of the most important I
think is overcoming inhibition if it is present. He talked about the
importance of not avoiding dealing with one’s thoughts, feelings,
desires, or behaviors related to sexual functioning in marriage. I like
that Bro. Barlow pointed out that the scriptures do not use the word
sex, but rather know or knew.
This is really neat to me because it describes it as having a deeper
meaning than the way the world views it. Husband and wife cleave unto
one another and none else and in turn become the more important person
in the life of the other.
Bro.
Brotherson also talked about some couples feeling unwholesome or
anxious about expressing their feelings after marriage. I feel like this
could be remedied by parents teaching their children that sexual
intimacy is not something that is bad, but is saved for the sacred bonds
of marriage. I had one roommate who’s parents never talked to her about
sex and I feel that this was a great disservice to her. The church has
an awesome handbook for teaching children and teens about sex. Of course
you don’t tell them more than they need to know, but it gives great
guidelines for what to teach at different ages. From a young age we
should teach children to respect their bodies and those of others; that
our bodies are good and not something to be ashamed of. Along these same
lines, the prophetic teaching of President Brown stood out to me:
“Thousands
of young people come to the marriage altar almost illiterate insofar as
this basic and fundamental function is concerned. The sex instinct is
not something which we need to fear or be ashamed of. It is God-given
and has a high and holy purpose … We want our young people to know that
sex is not an unmentionable human misfortune, and certainly it should
not be regarded as a sordid but necessary part of marriage. There is no
excuse for approaching this most intimate relationship in life without
true knowledge of its meaning and its high purpose.” (Bookcraft, 1960,
pp. 73, 76; emphasis added)
Bro.
Brotherson gave a beautiful comparison I thought- he compared us
returning to the temple often to serve and be reminded of the standards
we have committed ourselves to live to a frequent return as a couple to
serving, loving and reminding ourselves of the commitment we’ve made as a
couple through sexual intimacy. I think if we think of sexual intimacy
in this way then we will fulfill our sexual stewardship in marriage.
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